Turns out, all this emphasis on self esteem was terribly misguided! We were first told that low self esteem was bad for us, and it is. Then, in 2007 Harvard came out with a study about "The Use and Misuse of Self-Esteem" warning us that focusing on self-esteem can lead to real problems for people.
We…
Have you ever heard of "imposter syndrome?" Yeah me either, until I discovered it was something that a lot of leaders struggle with. I was being coached by a professional leadership coach and he started talking to me about this common struggle leaders face. Turns out even the most confident among us sometimes thinks we…
It’s always funny to hear people talk about what they think the Faith means by eternal life. I remember one movie from the 1990 called “Ghost” with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore. The movie was about this tragic murder of a man and how the woman he loves copes with this tragedy. Of course, the…
It was embarrassing. But, in my defense, it was an automatic response. I was walking with some friends at a mall and we were passing by a candle shop. The aroma coming from the shop hit my nose and I immediately made the sign of the cross in front of everybody. The looks I got…
"What you don't know won't hurt you!" Really? I've found that, sometimes, what I don't know hurts me pretty bad.
But what's worse is misunderstanding what I actually do know. In fact, I have misunderstood some things I thought I knew so bad that I might as well not known it at all! And that, dear…
My doctor once told me to MOVE. He wanted me to exercise more because he was insistent that "if you don't use it; you lose it!" He went on to tell me one of the most dangerous habits we can get into as we age is the increase of sedentary lifestyle; watching too much TV,…
I've noticed that some folks appreciate straight talk and some folks don't. In fact, there seem to be whole cultures where plain talk is discouraged because certain cultures consider it rude. I've seen this reality play out with different concepts about honesty as well.
A friend of mine told me about her business dealings with someone…
He was a canny businessman. He actually took real pleasure in knowing he had gotten the better of his business associates in deals, in negotiations, and in life. He seemed to know just when to strike and just the right words to say to get his way and get ahead.
And he was all alone. His great…
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Faith is something we humans take for granted. We seem to just assume that we “have” faith or we “keep” the faith merely by wanting to do so, but is that true faith?
Is faith something we simply “think” about and so we “have” it? I don’t know about you but this seems to lead us to magical thinking or, worse yet, self-delusion. Is…
Isaac Newton once said "Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things." How I resonate with that. Simplicity is the enemy of confusion and chaos. I'll never forget the story of a Third world visitor to the US being overwhelmed by her first trip to an…
