A Proverbs 31 Woman!
My grandmother once told me “Son, a good woman is hard to find.” The longer I live, the more I think that it’s the fault of bad men that this saying may be accurate. But what does that even mean after all? Good according to what measure? Is it looks? We all know that physical beauty is fleeting. Is it intelligence? Using what standard? All of this feels so arbitrary. No wonder so many women fall in to the confusing trap of trying to measure up to some artificial standard. We men fall into the same trap ourselves. Let’s face it, the modern world really has no idea what makes a “good” person.
But I know Someone Who does!
Look at our lesson today in Proverbs 31:8-31:
Open your mouth for the dumb, for the rights of all who are left desolate. Open your mouth, judge righteously, maintain the rights of the poor and needy. A good wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant, she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and tasks for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor, and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes herself coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers girdles to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.
Looking at the characteristics of this “good wife” here in this passage and I see wisdom in how to be a good person, both husband and wife!
This “good wife” is trustworthy, dependable, judicious, industrious, fair minded, insightful, of good reputation, and on and on and on. I read this list and think to myself “Wow, I wish I were like that!”
And that’s the point, my angels. You aren’t to look at this list and see all the ways you fail. You are meant to look at this list and see all the ways you are called to the humility of an honest confession. None of us are ever able to always measure up. We stumble. We fall. We disappoint each other. We sin. But, at the end of the day, do we fear God in that we know He loves us and asks only we run to Him for forgiveness and strength.
We look at the description of this virtuous woman and we only see how much we aren’t like that. And, in this moment, we have two choices: We can throw up our hands and fall into the trap and lie of despondency and condemnation OR we can run to the Father Who loves us more than we, ourselves, know how to love and cry out the prayer the Church teaches us to pray every moment: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner!”
Today, we stand at the threshold of Holy Week. We have completed the Fast. We haven’t been perfect. We’ve stumbled. But that NEVER should stand in our way of mercy and God’s love. Even the death of Lazarus won’t stop the joy of Jesus! Being Orthodox on Purpose means there is ALWAYS hope!
P.S. Tomorrow is Lazarus Saturday. We will have liturgy in the morning followed by a pancake breakfast for the Sunday School children and youth and then we’ll fold palms for Sunday! Go to church tomorrow. You’ll be glad you did! Faithencouraged@gmail.com