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Why is it I keep having to learn wisdom the hard way? I mean, it isn’t like I haven’t had wise men and women and friends who have offered wise counsel. I’ve seen how bad choices can really wreck a life and then I’ve watched myself make those SAME BAD CHOICES! What gives?

Well, what gives is our common, human struggle. Our will, our “want to” is weakened by fear and death. We allow our fear of mortality to con us into believing that “he who dies with the most toys, wins” or any number of temporary delusions we tell ourselves to justify our choices. But, in the end, they all fall flat!

Look at our lesson today in Proverbs 19:16-25:

He who keeps the commandment keeps his life; he who despises the word will die. He who is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will repay him for his deed. Discipline your son while there is hope; do not set your heart on his destruction. A man of great wrath will pay the penalty; for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again. Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom for the future. Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will be established. What is desired in a man is loyalty, and a poor man is better than a liar. The fear of the LORD leads to life; and he who has it rests satisfied; he will not be visited by harm. The sluggard buries his hand in the dish, and will not even bring it back to his mouth. Strike a scoffer, and the simple will learn prudence; reprove a man of understanding, and he will gain knowledge.

What wisdom our writer of Proverbs offers us today as we enter into the homestretch of Great Lent. And this wisdom lies at the heart of our weakened will and how we will escape foolish living. Look at three insights into making your life secure, wise, and eternal.

  • First, Know the Commandments – St. John Chrysostom declares that knowing the scriptures is absolutely necessary to knowing God. Of course, this means an active and diligent study of the scriptures and a love for the scriptures. But you and your children will never live the scriptures if you never know WHY they are so valuable to you. The scriptures aren’t an end in themselves. No. The scriptures are valuable because they teach you about God. And that, my angels, is your true home! If you know the scriptures, you’ll get to know God and to know Him is to love Him!
  • Next, Embrace Discipline – I know, I know, this doesn’t “feel” fun. But, hey, being a grown up isn’t easy. It is, however, worth it. Discipline sets you free to be who you were made to be in the first place. When you embrace the hard work of actively practicing the disciplines of the faith – Prayer, Fasting, and Generosity – you enable your true self to be discovered, AND you avoid the pitfalls of being enslaved by your desires. Humbly accepting instruction to learn and grow makes you like Jesus, and being like Jesus enables you to enjoy eternal life with Jesus!
  • Finally, Demand Truth from Yourself – When you insist on an honesty from yourself, you escape the dead end of constantly blaming all your troubles on everyone around you and even blaming God for your troubles! St. Isaac says that “this life was given to you for repentance. Do not waste it on vain pursuits.” Of course, repentance here doesn’t just mean “feeling” sorry for wrong doing. No, it means an active and purposeful practice of the medicine of the Orthodox Faith SO THAT you are strong enough to participate with God in His dynamic and glorious eternal life!

Today, are you able to escape bad choices in your life? Looking back, do you see the pattern of short sighted living that causes such grief? Don’t despair! There is remedy in the wisdom of the Church! Just be brave enough to be Orthodox on Purpose!

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  • Steve Price
    Posted April 6, 2020 at 11:19 am

    Remember this one?
    The Hard Way
    dc Talk
    (chorus)
    Some people gotta learn the hard way
    I guess I’m the kinda guy
    That has to find out for myself
    I had to learn the hardway, Father
    I’m on my knees and I’m crying for help
    Now I’ve been high and I’ve been low
    I’ve been some places that you will not go
    I never thought there would come the day
    When I wished I never would’ve lived this way
    But I’ve been searching for a long, long time
    I thought the devil was a friend of mine
    I turned my back on everything that was true
    And wasted years that belong to you
    (repeat chorus)
    It took so long for me to see
    That I’m a victim of nature and me
    Left to myself I realize
    I am the maker of my own demise
    But you accept me every time and again
    And never mention just how selfish I’ve been
    Why must it always take me so long to see
    That I have fallen but you will forgive me?
    (repeat chorus 2x)
    The warning signs are like flares in the night
    Still I proceed my greed is in spite of the fire
    I know that’s bound to burn
    Why is it that I always gotta learn…
    The hard way, the hard way, I had to learn the hard way
    The hard way, the hard way, I had to learn the hard way
    Songwriters: TOBY MCKEEHAN

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