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Someone once said, “Anyone who says raising children is not the hardest job in the world isn’t doing it right!” And that is so very true. But “difficult” doesn’t mean “bad” or “broken,” it just means the task is meant to focus you and make you more attentive!

And raising kids is difficult, especially in a society that has exalted perpetual adolescence to a virtue, as is the case today. The challenge is we have lost, or more likely abandoned, the very definition of mature and adult. In such a time we are tempted by two polar opposites, which are both destructive – focusing only on broken ideas of “self-esteem” which lead us to “protect” our children from “every hurtful and teachable moment” OR disregarding the tender souls given to us by God to raise and opting for a “rule-keeping” regiment that embitters or embarrasses our child. Both lead to adults who struggle with the realities of life.

Look at our lesson today in Matthew 10:16-22:

The Lord said to his disciples, “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves; so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. Beware of men; for they will deliver you up to councils, and flog you in their synagogues, and you will be dragged before governors and kings for my sake, to bear testimony before them and the Gentiles. When they deliver you up, do not be anxious how you are to speak or what you are to say; for what you are to say will be given to you in that hour; for it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you. Brother will deliver up brother to death, and the father his child, and children will rise against parents and have them put to death, and you will be hated by all for my name’s sake. But he who endures to the end will be saved.”

Our Lord Jesus is preparing His disciples for their immediate mission of spreading the news about the arrival of God’s Kingdom AND the confrontation this message will obviously stir in a society still addicted to the temporary! And He tells them to “be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.”

What amazing wisdom! What does He mean? And how does this wisdom translate into how we are to live in our own chaotic age?

First, the Lord doesn’t sugarcoat reality. He tells His followers, and us, that He knows He is sending us out like “sheep in the midst of wolves.” You aren’t going to get the wisdom of serpents and doves if you don’t first decide to deal with reality as it really is. Hiding from reality or living in the fantasy world of “wishful thinking” always leads to destruction. We have to soberly and honestly embrace the reality that all “utopian” ideologies always end in tyranny. And they always insist it’s for our own good. I won’t be able to navigate the nuances of life without a clear understanding g of what is at stake. And I won’t be able to truly equip my children with living life well if I am not soberly attentive to this reality. But beware of the dangers of allowing reality to depress you or discourage you!

How do I do that?

You must be wise and innocent!

Wise as a serpent means you are focused and attentive. You are able to discern your surroundings with an attentiveness that allows you to see danger coming a mile away. You are disciplined in your main goal and you know what you need and where you are going. That wisdom cannot be reduced to mere rule-keeping or thoughtless habit. The serpent uses all his resources to stay aware of his present surroundings and you must do the same with the gifted wisdom preserved for you in the Church. Unaware of this treasure of wisdom means you are ill-able to know what is going on around you and you are easy prey for the wolf!

Innocent as doves mean your motivation is always simple and clear. You are not trying to appear innocent so as to trap someone, but you really are innocent, and your motives are based on love for God and the other. You are truly wise and loving not merely clever and shrewd. You allow God to so help you know yourself that you are attentive to the times when you can even accidentally be manipulative and self-serving. You are quick to repent and you are quick to serve.

Today, the Faith builds into the very rhythm of the Orthodox life all you need to be both wise and innocent. The treasure of wisdom within your grasp in the life of the Faith invites you today to become that person free from both foolishness and harm, and then to pass this treasure on to the next generation so that they can be Orthodox on Purpose.

P.S. Dear Lord, the treasure of children, and the treasure of relationships are given to us by You so that we can wake up to our need for wisdom and innocence. I confess, Lord, I often fail to be attentive to this and my short=sighted choices and priorities end up hurting me and those around me. Please forgive me, Lord, and help me to be both wise and innocent. Amen


1 Comment

  • Yvette Cathers
    Posted February 9, 2022 at 7:30 pm

    Outstanding post!

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