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It’s no secret that family life is filled with challenges. To be honest, I don’t think we’ve seen the real fallout of all the societal experiments we Americans have engaged in since all these movements have been demanding this or that change in society. One of the interesting, if unintended consequences, of these movements is the growth of interest in young men and women in ancient religion. For instance, the Roman Catholic Church can’t quite figure out why all these young Roman Catholics prefer the old Latin Mass!

Another recent study showed that the adolescent stage of development in American teenagers is now extending well into their 20’s and some even into their 30’s. Of course, this means that marriage is being put off till later and later, and interestingly enough, even sexual activity is going down among teenagers! Lot’s of reasons for this, and not all of them good, mind you. but no one can dismiss the role bad family experiences have had in shaping the expectations of our youth!

Look at our lesson today in Ephesians 5:33; 6:1-9:

Brethren, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Slaves, be obedient to those who are your earthly masters, with fear and trembling, in singleness of heart, as to Christ; not in the way of eye-service, as men-pleasers, but as servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart, rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that whatever good any one does, he will receive the same again from the Lord, whether he is a slave or free. Masters, do the same to them, and forbear threatening, knowing that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and that there is no partiality with him.

St. Paul continues his instructions to the Ephesian Church and all the other parishes around Ephesus (this epistle is known as a “circular epistle,” that is a letter that is to be shared with all the nearby parishes) by teaching them to embrace just what a family is suppose to look like when the Message of Jesus is at the heart of the Family.

Husbands loves their wives; wives respect their husbands; children obey their parents; fathers don’t “provoke” their children; household slaves obey their masters; masters treat their servants as Jesus treats them! And all of this happens because everyone in the household embraces the life changing message of the Faith! And they allow the Faith to inform and form their choices, attitudes, and actions!

But how? Great question. The “how” flows from the “why” of the reason for being Orthodox on Purpose. You see, the basic need of each of us is to become able to be like our Creator, so that eternity with Him won’t feel like hell! And God, Who loves you, knows what you need to affect such a transformation in your own life. He puts you in relationships! Yeah, I know, Thanks!

Seriously, it’s in the hard work of being in relationships that invites you and me to see deep within ourselves and know ourselves and every place where we are asleep to our own self centeredness. I wouldn’t know the extent of my own selfishness if I didn’t have this wife and these children to put me in situations where I had to see just how lazy and selfish I really am! Ouch! And they, if they are awake to the purpose for all this, discover the same things about themselves in the crucible of family.

This is why the Fathers say the family is a “little church.” It is the place where we are invited, as painful and even fearful as it may be, to know ourselves. This knowing can lead us to despair and even depression as we refuse to give up our false expectations and the delusion that this is “suppose to make me happy.” No, we aren’t in these relationships for ourselves. We are given these gifts to learn how to move beyond ourselves and be made like our God, Who loves me so much that He gives Himself completely to and for me!

So, today, are you awake to the foundational purpose for the relationships you have? If you are, then you have the strength to see just how vital this formation is in being Orthodox on Purpose!

P.S. It’s been one year since we released A Journey to Fullness. Let us hear from you how you’re using this tool!

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